Happy New Year!!
Welcome to 2021!
Looking back at the past year brings up so many different emotions in people due to the craziness involved. For many it has been the hardest year of their lives and one that most seem to want to forget. Regardless of the situation is is very clear that everyone has had a very different year that has tossed our lives upside-down and in circles, with no ending in sight. Add in all the eye opening events that have happened throughout 2020 and into the new year and we come to the conclusion that we are living in a messed up world that is in need of a whole lot of love.
So how do we focus on us and keep going? Well self love is a huge part of it! What we do and how we care for ourselves is probably the hardest thing to figure out. I don’t have the answer, only suggestions that can’t hurt to try. Whether you are single or in a “relationship” of some kind, you must find time for your needs and desires.
How can we do this without seeming selfish, and where do we start? This feels like the most impossible thing to do as it is more likely that we concern ourselves with making sure others are ok before it even crosses our minds to make sure we are ok. Something that needs to change in all of us! There are many ways to give self care and they are all important and necessary.
Relieving stress is probably the first and foremost important step but also the most difficult thing to do. Life seems to be an endless ball of stress that continues to grow as days go by. Once we feel that we have managed to make it through something, BOOM!!, out of nowhere we are handed more. Work, kids, money, family and even friends can all create situations in our lives that make us want to run and hide until it passes. This unfortunately isn’t the solution and usually just prolongs the issue.
What do we do? I don’t have the answer even though I wish I did. What I do have is the tools to make the stress more bearable! It is a proven fact that the act of sex can relieve stress by releasing endorphins into our brains. When this happens life seems a little happier and the small things become easier to deal with. It is crazy how much the things add up and take over creating what seems like endless stress even though there is a good chance it is a simple issue that only takes a few moments of attention to solve or eliminate.
So back to self care and the endorphins released during a sexual experience! Having sex with another or satisfying yourself is so very important and should be done on a regular. I get it, it is not always that easy to accomplish for various reasons which are all understandable and valid! What I want you to know is that once you have sexual release it can become addicting! Be prepared to never want to go back to lacking this again. Is this a bad thing? No never, but within reason because as we all know limits are needed in all areas of life.
How does one accomplish this type of selfcare you ask?
Many will tell you “oh it’s easy just go and have sex your partner or with who ever” or “you have a hand, use it!” Sure for many that is all they need to hear, for others it can be a whole next level of stress. So many factors can come into play in people’s minds that make this not so simple. I won’t get into what all these factors are as the list can be long and take us into so many different topics. One thing I do know is that buying sex toys can be an extremely intimidating process. This alone can cause someone to abandon the idea in an instant. It can make those in relationships ignore the thought of spicing things up in the bedroom, all due to the unknown.
Sex toys are scary!!
Of course sex toys are far from scary but they sure do create an inner panic in people. “What if” questions pop up in droves in a person’s mind when it is new to them or they are uncertain of another’s reaction towards them. Let me tell you that sex toys are something that everyone deserves to have in their lives. If you have never had an experience with one I encourage you to allow yourself the pleasure! If you have dabbled a bit but still don’t own one or more, do yourself a favor and get that one cause you already know you liked it and are wanting to do it again! If you are already well versed in the sex toy area then I encourage you to add to your collection, go for the one you were thinking about but resisted because you have a few already, try the one that caught your eye, you to deserve it
What ever your circumstances may be, allow yourself the experience and enjoy the sensation that sex toys can bring into your life.
We all need sexual satisfaction!